There’s a controversy erupting in Colorado where a Catholic school has refused to re-enroll the children of a lesbian couple.
This controversy has been bubbling for the last week or so:
A Catholic school in Colorado is drawing criticism for its refusal to readmit the young children of a lesbian couple.
The school of the Sacred Heart of Jesus Church in Boulder has informed the couple that the older of the two children may attend kindergarten next year, but may not advance to the first grade; the younger child may complete preschool, but may not advance to kindergarten.
News of the exclusions drew some two dozen protesters outside Mass on Sunday, Denver station KMGH-TV reports.
I was working on a post when I first read about this, but killed it because I was quite conflicted on this. I’m still conflicted, but I thought I’d write a post anyhow and express some of those thoughts, and see if it generates some discussion.
First point - this is, as far as I am able to ascertain, a fully private school. They have a non-discrimination policy for admissions. But, unless they are taking government funding, I don’t believe there are any laws that require them to even have such a policy. Title VII applies to hiring, but even there, religious schools have a codified, if qualified, exemption. So this is clearly something that is allowable in the free market for private schools, and people can vote with their dollars. It’s fine to protest (peacefully), boycott, etc. But at the end of the day - the market is the market, and as long as the school is operating privately, the state really shouldn’t have a say.
Second point - I wonder if this school refuses to admit children of divorced parents, children born out of wedlock, children of inter-faith marriages, etc, etc. While what they’re doing is certainly their right, I’m willing to bet that they are being exceptionally hypocritical in this context. When the Bishop writes:
But what the Church does teach is that sexual intimacy by anyone outside marriage is wrong; that marriage is a sacramental covenant; and that marriage can only occur between a man and a woman. These beliefs are central to a Catholic understanding of human nature, family and happiness, and the organization of society. The Church cannot change these teachings because, in the faith of Catholics, they are the teachings of Jesus Christ.
but then turns around and excludes only the children of a homosexual couple, that’s utter hypocrisy. I’ll retract this assertion if evidence arises that they are, in fact, consistent on this issue. However, I doubt such evidence will arise. If they had such a policy, they would have responded to the initial furor with something like “our policy is to only accept children of marriages recognized by the Church”, or something to that effect. For now, I’m sticking with “this is more anti-gay hypocrisy”.
Third point - why would these parents want to send their child to a school whose curriculum will explicitly teach that they are sinners, their relationship is invalid, and that they are damned? Are there no other private alternatives in Boulder? Why expose your kids to this kind of environment? And why are you putting your kids in the middle of this media circus? To be honest, at its most charitable, this is a foolish situation that never needed to exist. There’s a market out there for a reason. It’s one thing if you want to make political/social statements for yourselves, as informed, consenting adults. But now you’re screwing up your kids. Let it go. Move on.
This is one of these great internal conflicts. I hate these sorts of religious hypocrites, and I love the opportunity to call them out. At the same time, I’ve repeatedly opposed the use of the government and/or courts to address LGBT-rights issues that are properly settled in the market, as this one should be. And this one is made more gratuitous by putting the kids in the middle.
Hopefully this one will just blow over - no lawsuits, no courts. No one wins in this one, at all. There are points to be made, but at what cost? Fight the fights that warrant fighting, not the stupid ones.